When a friend is sad, when a partner is angry, when a child is frustrated, “tell me what you want me to know” opens doors I didn’t even know were there, much less closed. Youre all I ever needed, yeah So tell me what to do now When I want you back Baby I remember, The way you used to look at me and say Promises never last forever I told you not to worry I said that everything will be alright I didnt know than that you were right Youre all I ever wanted Youre all I ever needed, yeah So tell me what to do now. These 8 words have enormous power outside of work as well. At work, with my clients, I no longer say “what happened?” or “what do you remember?” I say “tell me what you want me to know.” And I learn so much more than I ever would have if I went in with my interests in mind. Now I use that request as often as possible. And by doing so she allowed many women to being the process of healing. Judge Aquilina gave them the power to decide what was important. Something like 'I grew up in a one-stoplight town in the middle of nowhere and decided to go to West.
Sharing what inspired you to make the career choice you made is OK, for example.
And by happiness I mean both positive emotions like joy, contentment, and calmness, but also what is referred to as eudaimonia, which equates to something more like meaning, purpose, and well-being ( Huta & Waterman, 2014). It can be good to give a little personal history or insights into who you are when determining how to answer Tell me about yourself, as long as you do it right. Judge Aquilina didn’t say “What happened?” She didn’t say “Tell me what I need to know.” Instead, she put the ball in the women’s court. What Makes You Happy The vast majority of people want happiness. And she used one phrase that has changed all of my relationships. She approached each women who came before her to testify with compassionate curiosity. Judge Aquilina presided over the Larry Nassar case, and I was changed by watching her.
And in that chapter, I share a little bit about Judge Rosemarie Aquilina. The Elegant Warrior-How to Win Life’s Trials Without Losing Yourselfcomes out on Tues.